Getting Started in Divorce: What everyone SHOULD know but DOESN’T


A financially successful divorce begins with setting goals & priorities. (Download here).

If you don’t know where you want to go, how do you know how to get there?

Here’s an example:

I love to read.  One of my favorite scenes from Lewis Carroll’s “Alice in Wonderland,” is when Alice meets the Cheshire Cat & inquires him for directions: 

`Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?’

`That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,’ said the Cat.

`I don’t much care where–‘ said Alice.

`Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,’ said the Cat.

`–so long as I get SOMEWHERE,’ Alice added as an explanation.

`Oh, you’re sure to do that,’ said the Cat, `if you only walk long enough.’

Alice felt that this could not be denied, so she tried another question. 

`What sort of people live about here?’

`In THAT direction,’ the Cat said, waving its right paw round, `lives a Hatter: and in THAT direction,’ waving the other paw, `lives a March Hare. Visit either you like: they’re both mad.’

A good friend of mine asked his wife the other day, “If you were getting divorced, what would be the first thing that you do?” She said, “I’d talk to my friends & family & look for an attorney.” “Okay,” he said. “What would be the next thing you should do?”  Silence…

If you’ve watched my videos or seen me in person, one thing you’ll hear me say time and again is this: Your divorce may well represent the largest financial transaction of your life.  Frankly divorce is hard & it sucks. 

And while excellent legal counsel is highly recommended, you shouldn’t stop there. Having a team of legal & financial professionals by your side will significantly increase your likelihood of a successful financial settlement. 

But how do you define a successful divorce? It sounds like an oxymoron, right? Not necessarily. Over the past two decades I’ve learned that your divorce will be as unique as you. 

What worked for your sister or best friend may be completely wrong for you. 

Until you know where you stand & where you want to go – your divorce will be more difficult than it has to be. 

So what should you know that everyone else doesn’t? 

Start right here – by setting your goals & priorities. ((insert link for document & video)). 

Once you have done this – you are ready to move on with your household inventory & to do lists. Check our our videos on this here. (link).

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